Letting go of the past shouldn’t be hard, should it?
Recently this was the topic of conversation with a girlfriend and I. Things from the past can come up regularly in our present lives. Thoughts and feelings can come attached from a memory, a song, a place, or even a smell.
Or does it go deeper?
Does the past keep you stagnant in your present? Do you feel it affects your potential future? Or, are you unable to move forward from outcomes that have already taken place?
This can come in the form of regret, unhappiness, self-sabotage, build-up of walls, anger, lack of confidence, and any limiting belief.
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Is this you?
- Unable to forgive yourself for something?
- Unable to forgive someone else?
- Living in replay?
- Repeating the same mistakes over and over?
- Not allowing yourself to live in the moment?
- Staying in your head or memory box?
Well, here are some ways to help let the past go and help you to live the life that you were meant to.
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Letting Go Of The Past
Focus on the good things
Gratitude is everything! When you take the time to look around, to the people, the experiences, the things in life that you are grateful for, your attitude will shift. Truly. It’s pretty remarkable.
So look around.
To be present is where life is happening. Not yesterday, or tomorrow, today. Be in the moments as best you can. Not in your head or while scrolling social media, but now.
Look, listen, touch. Enjoy the present for what it is, whenever you can.
Related: Ways To Be More Mindful Everyday
Embrace that you have changed
Would you say that you are a different person then you were just say, 5 years ago? I would be willing to bet that you are. We evolve over time. We learn from our experiences which then allow our outlooks and perceptions to change.
To live in the past is not giving yourself the credit that you have changed. If you have a regretful heart always remember that hindsight is 20/20 and in most cases, the mistakes we’ve replayed in our heads would probably not go down the same as it did the first time. If we had the chance to do it again, that is…
…and we won’t because those moments have passed.
Let go and be proud that you are a better version of the person that once was.
Be open to new things
Part of moving on and letting go is to have new experiences. Try new things to help you in this evolution of self. Find new interests.
You will never know your full potential if you don’t expand your mindset a little. Be open.
Dig deep to see what it is you need to release
This entails a little soul-searching. Sometimes we hold onto the past because there is an underlying issue keeping us from moving on. Fear is something that comes to mind. Fear of what could be. Or fear that it would work and you could no longer hide in your past.
Many times if we look within ourselves we can answer our own questions. What limiting beliefs may be holding us back? What is the root of that regret? Why is this particular part of our past so hurtful? What can we do to change our mindset?
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Forgive those that wronged you
Did someone hurt you terribly in your past? Did they lie or betray you in some way? That pain from those experiences can live on replay throughout our lives if we let it.
Allowing forgiveness of the heart can help you to let go and finally live in your life now as you should be.
This can be difficult but we need to forgive ourselves for the past in order to move forward. All the things you didn’t say. all the things you didn’t do, all the missed opportunities, all the not so shiny moments need to be released.
Life can be tricky and full of lessons. But we have to take the days as they come and make the most of them. Living in the past keeps us standing still. Doing this will never allow us to be truly happy. It takes our potential for greatness away.
Taking those regrets and moments of pain and forgiving the situation and ourselves allows us to open our hearts and minds to better moments to be had. Bigger experiences await and we can’t miss out.
In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.
Is this something you can relate to? Not letting go? If so, leave a comment below.
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